From Fizzle to Sizzle: 4 Crucial Tools For Relationship Repair
by Dr. Caron Goode and Dr. Minette Riordan (Scissortail Publishing, Goleta, California, 2013, 128 page).
Book Review by Dennis Moore
In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.
Dr. Caron Goode, award-winning nonfiction author and publisher and the founder of the HeartWise strategies for connection and communication in all relationships, and Dr. Minette Riordan, award-winning business owner, author and certified coach, has co-authored the quintessential book on relationships; From Fizzle to Sizzle: 4 Crucial Tools For Relationship Repair. Perhaps most revealing in this book is the need for the authors set limits of liability and disclaimer of warranty, which states: “The purpose of this book is to educate and entertain. The authors and/or publisher and/or editor shall have neither liability nor responsibility for any loss or damage caused, or alleged to be caused, directly or indirectly by information contained in this book. If you have major life issues like insatiable neediness, a sexual disorder or addiction, or attention issues that make you incapable of taking the simple steps outlined in these pages, this book won’t work for you. Instead, seek help from a health professional, mental health consultant or therapist.” The book does educate and entertain, but limits of liability and disclaimer of warranty might apply to the majority of the population, including me.
The authors indicate in their book that we are doing things day in and day out that drain energy out of our relationships, cost us peace of mind, cost us stress, and leave us feeling lonelier than we might like. They further indicate in From Fizzle to Sizzle that the juice is gone and motivation may have fizzled out of all our relationships. They offer 4 crucial tools for relationship repair. Those four tools are:
Perhaps most profound in this educational and entertaining book, is the authors stating: “You cannot give yourself away in relationships. You must bring your best to the relationship.”
In this primer to the ability to build and maintain positive, healthy and productive relationships, the authors provides proven skills and relevant examples to help you have those ‘ah-ha!’ moments. This book fulfills an urgent social need in teaching readers how to develop relationship skills, and during the course of doing that, it entertains with quizzes to test your progress. The authors show how to identify your needs and values and to be crystal clear about what you want in your relationships – and if that was not sufficient, the authors directs you to their website; www.heartwiselife.com. This is a book that definitely gets you to thinking in a positive way about relationships.
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Dennis Moore is a writer and book reviewer with the East County Magazine in San Diego and the book review editor for SDWriteway, an online newsletter in San Diego that has partnered with the East County Magazine. He is also the author of a book about Chicago politics; “The City That Works: Power, Politics and Corruption in Chicago.” Mr. Moore can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org or you can follow him on Twitter at @DennisMoore8.